Comments on: Fixed-pie thinking is undermining the ADR field’s development http://makingmediationyourdayjob.com/fixed-pie-thinking-is-undermining-the-adr-fields-development/ Online marketing, career and business guide for ADR professionals and those who want to be Sun, 14 Mar 2010 04:54:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Tammy Lenski http://makingmediationyourdayjob.com/fixed-pie-thinking-is-undermining-the-adr-fields-development/comment-page-1/#comment-786 Tammy Lenski Thu, 22 Oct 2009 10:25:12 +0000 http://makingmediationyourdayjob.com/?p=2409#comment-786 Amanda, I always appreciate what you have to say -- kindred spirit to be sure. I'm drawn particularly to your comment about "being a mediator and not just doing mediation," and have been pondering it as I sip my morning coffee. I think your phrasing finally nails for me my dis-ease with some of the ways the field seems to be developing -- "Big M" Mediation (the formal process) getting attention as another service rather than "little m" mediation as a cluster of approaches for helping folks navigate conflict differently. Would we want to get counseling from someone who says, "I'm primarily a primary care physician but I do a bit of counseling to supplement my medical practice?" Amanda, I always appreciate what you have to say — kindred spirit to be sure. I’m drawn particularly to your comment about “being a mediator and not just doing mediation,” and have been pondering it as I sip my morning coffee. I think your phrasing finally nails for me my dis-ease with some of the ways the field seems to be developing — “Big M” Mediation (the formal process) getting attention as another service rather than “little m” mediation as a cluster of approaches for helping folks navigate conflict differently. Would we want to get counseling from someone who says, “I’m primarily a primary care physician but I do a bit of counseling to supplement my medical practice?”

]]> By: Amanda Bucklow http://makingmediationyourdayjob.com/fixed-pie-thinking-is-undermining-the-adr-fields-development/comment-page-1/#comment-785 Amanda Bucklow Thu, 22 Oct 2009 01:08:16 +0000 http://makingmediationyourdayjob.com/?p=2409#comment-785 I agree Tammy. This is a big hurdle to developing wider acceptance of and therefore greater use of mediation. The users of mediation really don't like to see mediators not walking their talk! They really don't like to see them competing even though they understand that it is a competitive market. Without the faith to practice the principles that underpin the process, mediators are cutting their own throats. Walking the talk to my mind means being a mediator and not just doing mediation. Feeling the fear and doing it anyway? I agree Tammy. This is a big hurdle to developing wider acceptance of and therefore greater use of mediation. The users of mediation really don’t like to see mediators not walking their talk! They really don’t like to see them competing even though they understand that it is a competitive market.

Without the faith to practice the principles that underpin the process, mediators are cutting their own throats. Walking the talk to my mind means being a mediator and not just doing mediation. Feeling the fear and doing it anyway?

]]>